Spending time together

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marriage, postaday2013, relationships, writing

My hubby and I are spending all this week together; partly in Boston and in New York. His projects take him here and there and I follow. The babies, all three of them are at home, taking care of each other and making use of the pool because the entire northeast is under a heat wave advisory. This week we are seeing temperatures in the mid nineties and high humidity. We’ll be home Thursday afternoon, I can’t wait because I miss the babies and my house. I love being with my hubby, but it is difficult living out of a bag and knowing that there are things to be done at home, things to do for the pool and things to do in the garden.

It is fun however playing hooky away from home. My day is very quiet while my hubby is at work and I am alone reading, writing and walking where ever I find myself. I love walking in Boston and in New York, there is always something to see.

I don’t know why I took these pictures, I just pointed my cell phone and clicked. There were plants, nice architecture and blue sky involved; all good things.

Parenting is challenging

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children, parenting, postaday2013, relationships, university

No matter how long you do it for, parenting never ceases to present new challenges. When children leave the nest, you would think that the worrying would decrease to minimal levels. Until a phone call comes from a certain child who is away at school and unhappiness is on the other end of the telephone. The unhappiness is important to the said child but in the grand scheme of things, it does not register on a red alert which I am so very happy to report but still unhappiness is not an optimal thing for a college student, repercussions can multiply and then amplify the initial unhappiness, hence the worrying. I am grateful that said child calls often and I get to monitor the pulse of the emotional well-being of my baby. I am not worried about my baby in terms of her academics, I worry that certain acquaintances in her circle are sucking her emotional vitality away from her. So while I’m listening, I’m thinking that all she wants and needs is someone to listen, not offer advice. It was a little too hard to refrain from giving a little advice which I quickly stopped doing after she let me know that she isn’t me. I didn’t say it but what I really wanted to do was slap every single person responsible for making my baby girl unhappy.

I know that she will be fine but I am still not happy with those people. It is a part of life to learn how to deal with all types of people but usually you don’t have to live in such close quarters all the time. Experiences such as these do promote strength of character or so I have been told, but as a parent your first instinct is to want to shield your baby from these sort of experiences and when they are little you are allowed. Only when they are big do you get tortured with the fact that you have been relegated to observational status. Don’t care too much for the observational status when my baby is sad but I need to learn to accept it. She will be fine; she is bright, smart, strong, resilient and kind.

Putting Sunday to bed, a little sadly

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postaday2013, relationships, Sunday night, weekdays, weekends

It’s this time again, as it happens every week, Sunday evening, the bittersweet ending of another nice weekend. My hubby and I love Sunday evenings because it always means very good t.v that we enjoy watching together, but we dislike Sunday evenings just as strongly because it means that we are going to be apart for the rest of the week. Actually for the past month, my hubby has been great about coming home during the week so that it breaks our separation up quite nicely; just two nights apart instead of the full four nights.

Our marriage has operated this way for a very long time; the babies and I home in the mountains and my hubby on the road either in New York or in Boston. Back then when they were little, I was too busy with the babies to really miss my hubby. But now, that it is only Jack and I, I find myself missing my hubby much more which I think is something to be appreciated because it would be horrible if I didn’t miss him. I read the women’s magazines every once in a while and those true stories where after twenty years of marriage and children gone from the roost, you see the wife get up one morning and decide that she is done. I’m happy that I am not in that group. I am not criticizing those ladies, if anyone isn’t happy in their marriage it is up to them to do what is right for themselves, however I am very thankful that I love my hubby and will be in love with him for the rest of my life and our marriage.

What are your five strengths?

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optimism, patience, postaday2012, relationships, strengths, writing

List your top five strengths.

June 12, 2012

My Top 5 Strengths

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I would have to say optimism, patience, kindness, tenacity and discipline. The tenacity and discipline have served me with my writing and the rest have helped me with my relationships and life in general.

When is it okay to quit?

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boundaries, postaday2011, relationships

It is always okay to quit a relationship, job or situation that is hurtful, stifling or simply not in your best interests. I think relationships are often the hardest to quit even if it is abusive or dysfunctional, because it takes courage and a sense of self to be able to realize that a relationship is not working for you in the safest of situations. So when one is feeling dejected and full of self-doubt, it is almost impossible and that is when it is more than okay to quit.

You can say the same for certain jobs where you are poorly paid, living from paycheck to paycheck, suffering under the yolk of a boss from hell, those are the times when you need to get quit and run for the hills.

I think that this question really refers to a person’s sense of self-respect, personal boundaries and an overall sense of self.
A very important question worthy of introspection for success in one’s life.