Trying to unsee something, very hard to do.

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music, postaday2013, T.v, VMA awards

My hubby and I watched the VMA show Sunday night because like most of the world, we love music and the show has always been entertaining, you never know what Lady Gaga is going to do or what Katy Perry is going to wear. The fashion police is out front and center because musicians take a lot more risks then your average movie star and it is very delightful to watch.

Now I do not consider myself a prude or a puritan, but I have to confess that I was getting uncomfortable with Miley Cyrus’s performance when she was grinding against Robin Thicke during their performance and also seeing what she was doing with that styrofoam finger went way over the top to the point of ickyness.

Maybe because my baby girl had watched Miley Cyrus be Hannah Montana for so long and seeing her be a little girl made me feel a little dirty after seeing her rub her little physique against a grown man because Miley may be twenty but she still looks like a very young teenager and it was just too much for my little eyes and little brain to take in, my hubby was half asleep so he was spared.

Now I know that I could have changed the channel but it was too much like a car wreck, I couldn’t look away. The craziest was that Lady Gaga’s performance was so very tame by comparison even her outfit with the mermaid sea shells and thong was not provocative when measured against Miley’s gyrating, twerking and tongue exposure.

I suppose that I am writing about it because poor Miley hasn’t left the news as of yet. I am worried that in her pursuit of ditching the image that she had as a result of portraying Hannah Montana, she is letting herself be defined by superficial notions of what passes as adult behavior. I remember that being twenty is a heady experience, you are still a brand new adult and still figuring out what that means, I just hope that someone on her team will be there to catch her when the nay sayers get to be too much to bear.

This was one event, she has talent and seems to be such a sweet girl, so I am sure that she will grow out of this phase and get back to celebrating her music with her lyrics and her abilities.

P.C.?

Is political correctness a useful concept, or does it stifle honest discussion?

I think that political correctness is a tool that serves a purpose, it serves as a reminder that there are certain terms, positions and beliefs that are not acceptable and that we are hopefully at a stage in our evolution that has decided that enough is enough with bigotry and prejudice.

In the United States for example for reasons I can not understand there still exists a debate surrounding whether it is okay for a certain group of people to use the "n" word. There was also a debate as to why it is okay for the use of the word "cracker" and not the "n" word. I really can't understand why anyone in anyway would ever want to use a word that has such a vile history in our culture. The "n" word has no place in a person's vocabulary, now on the other hand, hearing the word "cracker" doesn't mean anything to me because the connotations are so very different. The history behind that word simply reveals the poor white people who cracked the whip against the slaves, they weren't the slave owners, just the overseer who made sure that the slaves did what was required and treated them as less then human. So I don't feel the same way about the word. We still desperately need sensitivity to the race relations in our country.

Another area that needs work is that there is a debate over whether certain clothing choices made by women condemn them to being victims of rape. Instead of focusing on the idea that teaching men that there is never any reason for rape. I am not sure where the political correctness is in this situation but I believe a little more political correctness is necessary. Shaming young women into thinking that they are to blame for their rape needs to stop and making education a vital part of young people, being careful with alcohol and drugs, teaching young men that no is an important word, drunk is never an excuse and clothing has nothing to do with the character of a person.

Just because someone has a thought in their head doesn't mean that it automatically needs to be shared; tact, empathy, compassion and diplomacy are very good traits to have and as Thumper said in the movie Bambi "If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all"