Write a letter to the personality trait you like least, convincing it to shape up or ship out. Be as threatening, theatrical, or thoroughly charming as is necessary to get the job done.
Dear Insecurity,
I know that you have been a big part of my life for what seems like forever, but at this point in my life; I am going to be 46 in about six weeks after all, I really think that you and I need to part ways. I am well aware that you probably think that you protect me from making a fool of myself or from getting hurt, but you must realize that without pain or failure, one cannot grow. I need to grow and after a while one must realize that what others think isn't as important as taking risks and trying to achieve goals is to ones life.
My inner work is going to be trying to displace you from my inner dialogue. I know that it won't be easy, you are quite the bad habit, but I believe that mindfulness will be very helpful in diminishing your presence in my life.
your former listener
Laurie