If it was okay, than why have a golden rule in the first place? What is that darned golden rule anyway? Is it honesty? I think that it is and so I will answer it in that regard. I believe that the golden rule may be broken only if what the truth is, will cause harm to the person. My mother-in-law believed that honesty is the best policy and she flaunted that fixed belief as if it were a badge of honor. If you told her that what she said had hurt your feelings, she would dismiss your hurt feelings by informing you that she was only telling you the truth. So if your feelings were hurt, it was all on you. Her application of the golden rule didn’t extend to her. She could dish it out but she couldn’t take it, so the family had to be mindful of her feelings because, boy was she sensitive.
I have to admit that by dealing with my mother-in-law on a daily basis, it did make me more sensitive to the feelings of others and I think that I became more patient as a result of seeing how brutal she could be and how it hurt other people’s feelings. She is no longer with us, but her memory lives on.